This can’t wait. So I’m
posting mid-day, trapped in the lovely Polar Vortex, wrapped up in blankets in
my cube. Forewarning: This is a rant. It
will be long. And it will discuss and
use profanity. Deal with it or don’t,
your choice.
It seems to me that polite discourse is a thing of the past. The term certainly is, but I’m serious. And I’m angry about it.
Because a lot of the horrible, jack-assy statements are
coming from groups of people that I identify with, people who, by the
definition of the word they label themselves with (nerd) should know a thing or
two about people making them feel inferior, or feel like shit.
Of course, it’s not just nerds. It’s reality tv stars and
football players and plenty of other people.
People have lots of opinions these days but they can’t stand
if someone has another one. And they can’t
stand if what they say has consequences.
Yes, you can believe that being gay is an abomination. But that doesn’t mean you’re free of
consequences when the network you work for feels like that’s not a message they
want to promote. Hell, you can believe
that gravity is an unproven theory, but that doesn’t mean that if you jump off
the roof you won’t bash your skull in on the pavement. And that’s a flawed analogy. I know
that. But the point is, what you say
DOES have an impact.
We’ve all heard “agree to disagree agreeably” but does
anyone practice that anymore?
I think the breaking point for me was listening to an
episode of a podcast that I really enjoy, The Indoor Kids. It’s a video-game podcast by definition, but
topics vary to include movies, music, books and pretty much anything else. I
like it because the hosts are charming, funny, and interesting. The topics that they’ve brought up have made
me think differently about games, and introduced me to games I might want to
play, alone or with my favorite player one in the universe. They talk about the community, about what a “real
gamer” is and isn’t and why people have to label it, about good stories and bad
corners of the game world. And it’s fun
and interesting.
There was recently an episode that touched on religion. I usually peruse the comments but I don’t
often say anything. There was some hate
towards what they were saying. Then in the most recent episode, it got
worse. People are throwing around “Fuck
you” and “go die” about things like how many people do jobs working with their
hands anymore.
I guess it’s just too much lately. So I’m saying something.
What.the.hell?
Why are people like this?
Why do you come in, upset about a statistic, and instead of being a reasonable
person, you attack someone personally? I’m seeing a lot more of this writing
for Chicagoist too.
One of my personal favorites was a comment I got on a story
I did regarding an artist project in the Bridgeport neighborhood. To distill it all down, it’s a big giant
camera they plan to put in the middle of the neighborhood. The person whose picture is taken gets little
prints, and meanwhile the back of the camera displays the picture to the whole
neighborhood. The idea is to introduce
people to their neighbors in a fun, interactive way.
You wouldn’t think that’d be controversial in any way. But here comes the Internet, folks. Because one of the first comments that I got
on that article was all “Fuck you, I’m from Bridgeport and you little pigs say
it’s not friendly and you’re pretentious and blah blah blah” (paraphrased, but
she managed to call myself and the artist pigs right off the bat).
Yeah lady, I’m feeling the love. Definitely a friendly neighborhood. Totally
want to go now.
Do people stop and think that they’re representing something
larger than themselves? For example, the
Bridgeport neighborhood, gamers, nerds or the Internet?
And people love those things. Dearly. But do you want the stereotypes to be true?
Because when you go lowest common denominator and unintelligently respond to
something you disagree with with name-calling, insults, threats and personal
attacks…you’re detrimental to the things you love. If you’re going to be the 13 year old
screaming “FAGGOT!” in a headset, then you’re the one who’s making less people
play that game you love to do that in.
You’re part of the problem that keeps potential players away. And if there’s enough of that, maybe that
whole thing just goes away. And guess
what? That thing you love so much, you destroyed.
If you’re the one screaming about how friendly Bridgeport
is, you filthy horrible pigs, then you’re the one who’s making people go
“oo. Yeah, I don’t really feel like going there.”
What if, just a theory, we decided to disagree agreeably?
What if instead of telling someone to go die because they
don’t like Super Mario 3D World, you say something like “what didn’t you like
about it?” or if you don’t really want to know, you just say some of the
reasons why you did like it (super awesome cat suit, amazing music, tons of
challenging levels, fun co-op….cool integration of Wii U features…but I
digress.)
I just wish people would think about things. Yeah, TARDIS stands for Time and Relative
Dimension in Space, not Time and Relational Dimension in Space, but what
exactly do you accomplish if you bully someone for not knowing that? Are you helping the show by being a jerk to
someone just getting into it who didn’t know that?
For that matter, what if you really really like something
and someone else doesn’t? Does it make
someone stupid to like America’s Next Top Model because the show is
corny/cheesy/stupid? Or maybe, does
that person really like the photographs, and sometimes like to zone out on the
equivalent of reality junk food? So
maybe we’re not learning anything amazing.
Maybe there’s no compelling story line. Maybe you hate it. Maybe I like it. (And I do.
So shoot me.) That’s not all of
who I am. That’s one thing I enjoy
sometimes.
I love good story, and I love learning, and I love
intelligent shows. It just so happens I
also like that.
There’s a world of guilty pleasures out there, and everyone’s
got a few. To judge someone based
solely on that is just ignorance.
So let’s try stopping it, y’know?
IF we’re nerds, let’s be intelligent in our responses,
because we love to learn, and we love to know every little detail about things,
but let’s not be exclusionary and belittle people for not knowing as much as we
know. If we’re “internet folk” let’s be
open and friendly, because all of our friends are in this box, and we can
connect with them no matter how far away they actually are, and we love that
about the internet, instead of trolly and hateful and exclusive. If we’re gamers, let’s be fun and work
together and figure out puzzles and escape from all the crap we deal with in
our everyday lives, instead of putting more crap out there and being negative.
That’s what I’d love to see.
Just sayin’.